3 Steps To Releasing People From Blame WITHOUT Forgiveness

Hi everybody, it’s AJ McClary again and I was inspired over the weekend to talk about the concept of compassion and what it really means to be compassionate. And why forgiveness doesn’t necessarily come from a place of compassion at all. At least I don’t believe it does. This wisdom I’m about to share was a huge eye opener for me and changed my life. I know it’ll change yours too.

So wait a minute, could forgiving somebody is not always be a good thing? I’m not saying that at all, but forgiveness and compassion come from very different perspectives. Before I dive into this topic, I want you to know that what I’m sharing with you is based on MY belief system. So your belief system might be very different. I absolutely want to honor that. But I do wanna challenge you to look at things from a new perspective.

So this is what I believe. Forgiveness, I don’t believe it’s in alignment with Divine Truth. Divine Truth states that our Creator, whether you call it God or Source, holds no judgement. So from that perspective, the concept of “right” and “wrong”, “positive” and “negative”, they’re merely part of the polarity we experience on this planet. When we look at forgiveness, it’s coming from a place that one party is the villain and the other is a victim. I just don’t think that separation exists at higher levels of consciousness. I choose to believe there is a Divine reason for everything and that we’re Divinely perfect—we’re just participating in a karma exchange and playing roles that allow us to have certain experiences that I out soul is seeking out.

In the words of Dolly Parton, “God don’t make junk, sugar pie! God done gave everyone a gift, a coat of many colors, baby!”

Instead of forgiveness, I prefer compassion. There’s a huge difference in the energy. Forgiveness is about separation and compassion is about acceptance and unity. Now, I struggled with the idea of talking about this topic here because it does require some spiritual maturity and there are a lot of people in this world today that want to blame others for their experience. Standing in compassion means you accept responsibility for what shows up in your life. Instead of being the victim, you’re able to release them from the energy of attachment and understand the greater role we play in each others lives. Ouch, not all of us are ready to do that.

I think what a lot of people are really looking for is letting go of the energy they hold against a person. It’s quite uncomfortable. And forgiving somebody isn’t always enough to make that happen. Here are a few steps you can take to release that energy:

  1. Ask yourself what lessons they taught you as a result of having this experience. What did you learn from this? Maybe their betrayal is a gift in disguise.
  2. What aspect of yourself are they reflecting back to you? In other words, what qualities in them do you refuse to see in yourself? This is almost always the case. What upsets us in the behaviors of other people, quite often we are guilty of some of the same things.
  3. What soul contract did you create with this person and what are each of your roles in the experience? I believe we make agreements before we incarnate here with other souls to help us learn and grow and experience ourselves. Perhaps the narcissistic husband contracted with his wife in this lifetime to teach her to step into her power.

These are really important things to think about. I realize this is a very different way of looking at our experience and it might even be a little challenging for some. But this is a really powerful healing strategy and it puts you in the state of Diving Power. Take what works for you and forget the rest,

This has been AJ McClary, thank you so much for watching!

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  1. AJ- great piece. I have always looked at forgiveness as my being able to unhook from an incident (or incidents) that happened to me that still pings on me from time to time. To be able to think about a situation and have no anger or frustration, or negative thoughts about it any longer.

    I understand the higher perspective of my older brother preying on me and molesting me when I was young: roles we picked to play this lifetime. And I get that at a soul level I agreed to this relationship. I also know that when we make those agreements, we are bathed in an environment that is not heavy like our duality world in these meat suit bodies, and we don’t fully appreciate just how difficult life will actually be.

    I have done a lot of work to get to the whole picture from a higher perspective. I understand that some of this is my brother thinking he needed to take my power because he didn’t realize he has his own (as all of us sparks of the divine have). But I’m still working on the lesson in this for me. I’m thinking it has to do with self-definition.

    Sometimes I am able to move into the space of compassion for both me and for my brother, but it only lasts for so long. Still working on it though. And this might just take me a while longer to sort out.

    • Thank you so much! I love that you think about forgiveness from that higher perspective! Beautiful story of spiritual compassion and maturity.

  2. Thank you for sharing your profound and in-depth insights relating to forgiveness and compassion. This year already has brought forth certain individuals from my past who are trying to exert their negative force into my space again. As I’ve evolved quite rapidly over the last 2 years, and no longer allow toxicity and negative energy to penetrate into my existence, I appreciate the element of compassion you shared and will apply it to my consciousness. Much appreciated and in gratitude for your powerful insights ~ Nancy

    • You’re so welcome Nancy. I’m so happy that you found this week’s video useful!

  3. Dear AJ,

    I love your AJ TV video! I have been releasing contracts so I really resonate to your message today. Going beyond right and wrong gives us more power.

    Lots of love
    Jennifer xxx

    • Hi Jennifer! I’m so glad it resonates and helped you :)

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